The ULTIMATE Betrayal....

Betrayal, a form of deception or dismissal of prior presumptions, is the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract (trust, or confidence) that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.

A relationship is essentially a social contract. You tell someone you love them and that you want to spend the rest of your life with them and with that the possibility of an eventual marriage is there.

A long distance relationship is a social contract - with a few caveats. No where in the long distance relationship contract does it say that one party or the other can take on another boyfriend/girlfriend and whisper sweet nothings in their ear and smother them with kisses and affection. That belongs to ME! Call me crazy but I can forgive a slip up here and there given a long distance situation - because Lord knows I'm not perfect, however, I have never been in love with one person (after the age of 24 - yes I was young and dumb once too) and told ANYONE else that I love them also. Finding something like that out, seeing those words, concrete proof from the person you love dearly and have dedicated the last (almost) 2 years of your life to, is absolutely devastating.

Pure DEVASTATION. I'm not really sure how I'm functioning right now because I am absolutely heart broken and devastated. I'm glad I found the evidence, however I hate that I did, because in a relationship you shouldn't have to feel the need to go looking for anything. I hate that I have to move on because we are BEST friends and are perfect together, but I KNOW that I have to. There is no reason for me to stick around and be taken for granted and deal with the deceit and potential heartache any longer....because surprise surprise!....I have forgiven him before. It wasn't quite as heart wrenching as this situation so I was able to move past it, but THIS, this one just ripped my heart out of my chest.

I think his reaction is typical too. He's sorry, apologetic, swears it was stupid and none of the words he said to her meant anything. It's me that he's in love with and wants to be with. Please forgive him and give him another chance. I keep telling myself that he's only doing all this because he got caught....its the truth....otherwise, it would continue to be the same old routine. Telling me the -I love you's- on the phone as he's on his way out the door to go spend the night and cuddle with her, while I'm half a world away laying in bed alone.